Diet culture tells you that there is something wrong with you - the way you look, the size of your body, the weight of your body, the shape/s of your body, what you eat, how often you eat, etc. It hopes to get you to spend your time, energy and money on diet plans and foods so that you can “fix” yourself.
THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU. Today, this month, this year. There was never anything wrong with you, how you look, how you move through this world.
However, diet culture IS NOT choosing to avoid or decrease foods that cause you pain, cause inflammation, cause high blood sugars, make you sick, nauseous, or sad. Diet culture IS NOT choosing to eat foods that you know make you feel better, more energetic, happier. That connect you to your culture or ancestral traditions.
I have to make this distinction because to do otherwise is to deny the truth of my own story, which is that I have been able to heal my body and lower the intensity of lupus and diabetes effects like flares, inflammation, pain, arthritis, neuropathy, and depression by the decreasing foods that harm me and increasing the foods that heal me.
It denies the truth of my own story, which is that I have learned to honor food and accept its blessings and sustenance by praying to, singing to, and manifesting food into that which will serve and strengthen my body.
If you are out there struggling like I am to both take care of your body while not feeding into fatphobia and diet culture, especially this month when people are losing their shit with their new year’s resolutions, this post is for you. Because this culture is so f*cked up it is easy to fall into the brainwashing of diet culture even when you are trying to focus on taking care of yourself. Let’s support each to stay on the path of loving ourselves with food and self-care rather than using it for validation or acceptance from others.
You don’t have to eat cake, pizza and donuts to prove you are fat positive. But you don’t have the right to judge anyone else for what they eat. And no one has the right to judge you.
But for goddesses sake throw away your damn scale. Especially if you have kids in the house. Stop commenting on and disparaging your body. Especially if you have kids in the house. This is how I got to the struggles with disordered eating and body dysphoria that I struggle with today.
For goddesses sake let go of purity narratives rooted in racist ideas that tell you that if you deviate even one bite from your “diet” that you have failed and are bad. If you have not already, check out the work of Sonya Renee Taylor and Dr. Linda Bacon. Google Health at Every Size (HAES) and intuitive eating.
Have love and compassion for yourself no matter what you eat or how much. Today, this month, this year, last year.